I turned 22 last week. It’s had me thinking a lot about my age, my career, and, of course as always, babes. I get a lot of well-meaning compliments about where I am in life (in the context of “success”) and, often, they make me uncomfortable. Here’s why.
I was dealt an incredible hand of cards. I was partially home schooled during high school and had a ton of free time to fuck around. I was able to buy a camera with babysitting money and a laptop with photography money. I started blogging at a good time. I sat back and watched and learned so much shit about the industries I am in. I am economically in a position where I could and can afford the tools to help me succeed. I was fucking lucky to figure out what I wanted to do so early. I was able to go to college to study art and design. I have online-friendships that started seven years ago and a lot of those women have mentored, encouraged, and shared my work over the years. Timing, privilege, talent, and pure luck have made me.
Yes, I work hard. Yes, I am smart, but I also know I am not any more “amazing” than any other woman my age. I don’t want to be compared to them. I am just as incredible of a human being as the 22 year old woman next door, I’m just in different circumstances. Circumstances afforded to me by privilege and pure luck.
Again, I don’t want to be compared to how I’m better or cooler than other women or other young women, it makes me feel gross. I do not play that game. It’s not even true. There is room for all of us.
I’m writing this to say that if you’re a young woman babe and you’re struggling or fighting against systematic problems and self-doubt, it’s not you. It’s hard. “Success” and knowing what you want and figuring out how to work the system is near impossible.
If you’re a young woman babe and you want to do something, start something, make something and you want someone to chat about these ideas or just need some encouragement, plz email me (hello(@)karahaupt.com). I don’t know everything, but I do know a lot of women who know everything. I can help, we can help, I want to do this patriarchal bullshitty life thing together so it can be less bulshitty and so more women can be as lucky as I am.
We are on a team.
I love you.